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Gay & Gorgeous…Thank Goodness!

Gay & Gorgeous…Thank Goodness!

By now you may have heard of a young country singer named Steve Grand. He just released a song called All-American Boy and has been garnering a lot of attention in just a few short weeks. The video has already scored almost half a million views on Youtube and the numbers are going up daily. He has been getting a lot of lip service and media because his song is about the unrequited love between a young man and his straight male best friend. Yep. Steve Grand is gay.

Much is being made of Grand’s public coming out especially because he is in country music—a genre based in good ol’ American family values and traditions—not widely known for its acceptance of queer performers. Grand is 23 years-old and a native of Chicago so his foray into country music is all the more unusual given that he has been out and gay in his personal life for many years. However, the heart wants what the heart wants and his heart want to be a country star.

One of the most commonly used words in reaction to him is ‘hot’.

Grand has a rich, deep voice and sings with passion. He is also not hard on the eyes. As a matter of fact, he is quite striking. Which makes me wonder if the fact that he is so good looking is helping him garner more attention than his music. If he were heterosexual he would just be another handsome young country crooner trying to make it in the music biz. Being young, hot and gay has given him an edge. Don’t believe me? Check out the comments section of his Youtube video or any of the comments sections on any sites he has appeared on (and there have been many). One of the most commonly used words in reaction to him is ‘hot’.

Point of fact is that Grand is not the first country singer to come out as gay. There have been a handful before. kd lang comes to mind. She came out in the early 90s as she shifted from country to pop; however, her sexuality was a poorly kept secret in her country days and she was even embraced by some of Nashville’s elite. Another woman who came out not so long ago was Chely Wright, a singer who has been recording since 1994. There was Nova Scotia-born Drake Jensen, who was billed as ‘the first openly gay male country singer’ when he came out in 2012. So, why not all the fuss and hubbub?

imagesI’ll argue that women coming out is far less controversial than men coming out—although the women noted have taken their lumps and criticisms since kicking down the closet doors. In the case of Jensen, he is a 40-something bear of a man which apparently doesn’t warrant the ‘oohs’ and ‘aaahs’ of the LGBT population. Seems the best thing you can be is young and hot hot hot! As a matter of fact, while researching for this, I found comments about Jensen that were downright insulting to him, some even saying ‘I hate old men’. Since when is 43 old?

There’s no denying Steve Grand is brave for coming out in such a public way and certainly he knows he could be committing career suicide, for that he should be lauded. I just can’t help but think that if he weren’t as handsome as he is he may not be getting so much press. Would we really care? Ask Drake Jansen. It seems the best thing a gay man can be these days is young and hot!


andrewv100x100Andrew Vail’s writing career began in Halifax when he was but a child. In Grade 4, he wrote and produced his own series of comic books entitled “Freaky The Frog”, the on-going tale of a little misfit frog and his pals of the pond. Marvel Comics never came knocking but Andrew knew he loved to create and tell stories. Since then, Andrew has worked in advertising, PR and publicity; has interviewed politicians, rock stars and very interesting yet not-so-famous movers and shakers. He has published articles in a variety of local and national magazines and websites.

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